If you’ve got one, look at your vadge in the mirror. The outside of everybody’s vulva is a brand new continent, but the insides are reasonably similar to one another, so it’s a solid sneak preview if you have one. Inside your body, the top of the vagina will expand.Īlso: Check out your insides. Your nipples will get erect, your clit and vulva will swell due to increased blood supply. Note: When you’re aroused, you might feel warm or flushed.
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Not only will you know how your partner can please you, but you’ll have some idea of how to please them.īonus: Touching yourself with your jeans and underwear on (you can unzip your jeans, but don’t pull them down) might be very good practice for your date to Twilight Total Eclipse Of the Sun. While you’re at it, here’s how to buy a vibrator.īeing an experienced masturbator will help you be a successful lover more than anything else you could ever do, ever. Probably you and your showerhead have been aware of this since childhood, but if you’re new to masturbation or new to orgasming, here’s how to masturbate like a champ. If you have a vulva and you wanna know how to make a person with a vulva feel good, you have the advantage of using yourself for a test subject - not that what pleases you will please your partner, but it’s a start. However, trans women are women and most certainly have lesbian sex, and you can read some of our many tips on that in these posts: How To Have Lesbian Sex With A Trans Woman, F*cking Trans Women and Harnesses for Trans Women. The language in this post, unlike the majority of our sex content, reflects that largely for SEO purposes.
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We hope to open a dialogue for commenters to share their own stories and experiences and for everyone to ask questions!ĭisclaimer: This post (originally written in 2010 and largely unaltered from that time) focuses on lesbian sex between cisgender women, although is also largely applicable to sex between any two people with vulvas, and full of great advice for anybody having sex with someone who has a vulva. However, as we write this post, we are slightly concerned that we have no fucking idea what we’re talking about.
And while many heteros learn about sex together in their early teens, many lesbians don’t start that early and/or aren’t peer socialized into the sexual universe like straights are, not to mention that our entire media culture is structured around and obsessed with heterosexual sex.
Women’s sexuality, let alone queer sexuality, is usually ignored by sex ed programs. So we can understand how you might feel a little better knowing a little something before you take the plunge. Many of us had sex with boys in our teens and didn’t bang a lady ’til our mid-to-late-twenties, and felt like rookies all over again. Meanwhile, others recall hopping into bed and instinctually knowing what to do from the moment of entry. Or a sport everyone thought we should be good at but we weren’t. However - at the same time, many of us recall a period of time when lesbian sex felt like fumbling, or improv, trying to play a sport we didn’t understand, like badminton. But ultimately every partner is different - totally, completely, entirely different - from the next. Alternately, if you want it to be a big deal, it can be.
Your first time doesn’t have to be a big deal, some of us don’t even remember our first times. How do you have lesbian sex? We get asked this question all the time from lesbians of all ages who haven’t had lesbian sex and are worried they don’t know “how.” Well, listen: enjoying sex isn’t about memorizing 16 positions or knowing the best angle to fuck from, enjoying lesbian sex is half-animal half-heart and only rarely has it got anything to do with your rational brain, or cognitive reasoning, or anything a person could tell you or anything you could read on the internet.Īnd while it’s true that one day you’ll be more confident and experienced than you are now, it’s also true that your body was born knowing how to have sex like it was born knowing how to eat.